What Does Withholding Love Do To You?

So you don't love fully because you are afraid of being hurt. This is your way of being in control. This love can be withheld from another person, God, or from even something you have created, like a new business or project, as you may believe that this creation is too good to be true or you don't deserve it. When you hold back your love from another person, you are not living in the present moment. You are living in the future, saying "what if" that person leaves me or hurts me. So by limiting the love you give, you limit the love you can receive back. You believe that this "limited" love is a more "safe" way, but limited love has another definition --- hell. If you fully give your love now, you may be hurt, or you may not be --- but you will be living an authentic and joy filled life. IF your love is rejected, you may be hurt and you may experience grief, but your capacity to love will only be increased through this experience. We are afraid to love God fully because we believe that we have sinned against Him and he will punish us, which is completely false. But He loves us and wants for us to return His Love with eternal patience, for that is why He is Love. And each of us will return to Him and that Love --- of that there is complete certainty. Lawrence Doochin These posts are similar to the over 2100 contained on The Divine Speaks website (www.thedivinespeaks.com) where God gives YOU the one that you need to hear at that time. Lawrence traveled a long road of recovery from sexual abuse and is the author of three books on emotional and spiritual healing, including "Thirteen Steps To Move From Victim Consciousness To God Consciousness: Healing Traumatic Experiences Including Sexual, Physical, Emotional, And Mental Abuse."