The Need To Be Loved

The need to be loved, by your spouse, your kids, another human being, the world --- this need stems from your belief that you are not lovable. The degree to which this belief is held is the degree to which you seek love outside of yourself. As with all things, God is the answer. For the more you know His Love, the more you have Self love and the less you seek outside yourself. When you don't feel His Love, you desperately seek that Love outside of yourself to validate that this Love exists and to fill the hole of longing for that Love. These are the people who go from relationship to relationship seeking to find one who will give them this Love, but only God can fill this. Recognizing that you are One with God and His Love, that you are His Beloved, does not mean that you can't be in human relationships that reflect Love. In fact, as we see God in that other person, Divine Love is reflected and we can reach a very deep level of connection with the other person. And this helps us to awaken to our true Self, for this cannot be done in isolation. But if that person takes a different path and no longer expresses that Love, is hateful or angry toward us, this does not change the Truth of who we are. All validation and affirmation we need comes from our Oneness with God. Lawrence Doochin These posts are similar to the over 2500 contained on The Divine Speaks website (www.thedivinespeaks.com) where God gives YOU the one that you need to hear at that time. Lawrence is the author of three books on emotional and spiritual healing, including "Thirteen Steps To Move From Victim Consciousness To God Consciousness: Healing Traumatic Experiences Including Sexual, Physical, Emotional, And Mental Abuse."